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Friday, June 26, 2009

What's in a Name?

Je m'appelle Tony. Mi chiamo Tony. Ich heisse Tony. My name is Tony.

And that's my problem. My name isn't Mr. Lucchese. I understand that formal address is meant to be a sign of respect, but it makes me uncomfortable. I prefer to be addressed as Tony, regardless of the age or station of the speaker. I have worked around people of varying ages in a variety of capacities my entire life, and I have never had trouble commanding respect as Tony.

So how do I reconcile my own personal preference with the fact that the administration of most schools is going to frown upon such informality? I've been trying to come up with compromises. On one hand, I could call my students Mr. or Ms. followed by their surname. At least then we'd all be equally uncomfortable. Or maybe the students and I can come up with an appropriate nickname, like teach or chief or oh captain, my captain.

Did anybody else have this problem?


Rebecca said...

Menya zovut Rebecca (that's Russian!), but I suspect that your students would have a hard time calling you "Tony" after years of calling all their other teachers "Mr." or "M[r]s."

You'll probably be Mr. Lucchese (or perhaps Mr. L if they can't figure out your last name) whether you like it or not. It'll take some getting used to, kind of like it takes getting used to when you change your name upon marriage, but after a while it will feel right.

√Ądamas said...

i think it would be a good idear to go withe caling them mr < lastname > or miss < lastname >